Thursday, July 23, 2015

Love should not be taken lightly

Do you know what it's like to love someone unconditionally? To listen to and remember every little detail of their numerous stories...dated back to even a year ago. To go through their mood swings with them - their highs, mehs and lows. To create an abundance of memories - pranks, arguments, parties, silence, hugs, tickles, distance...

Distance, misunderstandings, miscommunication, being taken for granted, separate lives - circumstances that end a love like that. Overwhelming. I'll never put myself through that again....invest myself in someone so much.

The fear of losing someone you love is something we all go through. But that's love. It never leaves you. It always surrounds you. You rarely see it. You choose not to see it. You're taken for granted and it is gut wrenching. But who have you been taking for granted? .

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Hindi Movies and The Friend 'Back Up'

After having watched Kuch Kuch Hota Hai and going through a nostalgic trip down memory lane, the movie brought on a different perspective from the happy ending it offers. As the same with the following movies with similar story lines: Cocktail, Mujhse Dosti Karoge, Jo Jeeta Wahi Sikandar, Yes Boss...so mainly Bollywood movies :P

So here goes...

Intense and deep relationships between friends can lead to complications. Not all. Not some. But a good number. If not between the friends, between others. One way or another, our relationships with individuals somehow unite as a whole and affect each other. Or maybe that's just how I see it.

A friendship between opposite sexes starts off very simple. And many have maintained to be simple. But some complications can arise - misunderstandings, one liking the other, getting into relationships therefore abandoning the friendship, jealousy and many other things.

A friendship between opposite sexes also can lead to a "back up" plan...ya know, the one that took place in the famous TV show too - FRIENDS. "By the age of 40, if we're both single, we'll marry each other." Just perfect.

...but not when one of the two people likes the other. Being a back up option for someone you're in love with can turn out to be the worst feeling on earth. But you don't like feeling this way because you don't want it to affect the beautiful friendship that has bloomed. It's a frenzy, confusing and by far one of the worst emotional journeys to go through.

I have no advice whatsoever. Cutting off ties seems to be the most practical solution. But is it really? Why should you abandon a friendship just because your feelings are in the way? Then again, don't you have any self respect? Do you really want to end up with a guy who you're in love with, but looks at you as a back up option?

Image Source: Google
"Cutting Ties" :P
(Also, I like to think I'm funny)
Relationships can be very complicated. We don't realise it till strong emotions come in to...well...test the relationship.

Looks like Anjali managed to get a happy ending after years and years. Does it work that way in today's era? Do let me know! :)

Monday, June 15, 2015

Sense8

This show got me thinking. There are so many underlying theories, discussions and thoughts that can come about by watching just one episode of the show.

THE CONCEPT

There are 8 people, all connected - they all can feel what one can feel. They can communicate with each other through eye connections even if they are in different parts of the world - and they are - UK, USA, Germany, India, Kenya and a few others.

MY THOUGHTS

> Falling in love within the 8 of you can be a form of narcissism.
> Isn't this how some of us are? Invested so much in a relationship that we tend to be with the other, even if not physically, but in some form thanks to technology.
> Do people like this actually exist? Is this what telepathy is?
> It's like a messed up inception - how do you know what's real and what's not?
> Character development is sorta not there. You just figure out the character by instinct, which is a risk on the writers' part but well done I believe. It's easy to understand them given the connection they all share.
> My favourite character has to be Capheus, not just because he's from Africa (though that was an added factor), but because he's the only guy who seems to do what's right. No time for games. Also, he enjoys the simple things in life. Like the scene with Riley on the plane has to be one of my favourite scenes. 

FAVOURITE QUOTES

"Who we are is less relevant than what we are."

"There's a huge difference between what we work for and what we live for."

"Life and death are always so mixed up together; some beginnings are endings and some endings become beginnings."

"Sometimes when you make a mistake, you've two choices - either live with it, or fix it."

TRAILER


Thursday, June 11, 2015

Emotional Baggage?

The epitome of true friendship lies in many things. But the one thing I probably would expect is being there. Not physically but emotionally.

Everyone carries emotional baggage - be it dramatic, small or even stupid - we all do. Some are lucky to have someone in their lives to exhaust it on - a venting machine (geddit?) Others just find other ways to channel the frustration - art, music, writing, going for a walk, plummet into work...and so on.

Relationships change. People change. Life changes. It's all inexorable. And everyone knows this. It's not new.

But what many people don't realise is that the change is very effective on various things in life. It could change an entire relationship - its dynamic, communication, perspectives and perhaps even the level of likability. When change happens, that's when the true character of certain people is revealed.

Some people love changes. A constant in life can be quite annoying. But sometimes, a constant is a good thing.

I really don't know what the theme of this post is. I just feel like it's been a while since I did an emotional post. Maybe I had to channel my emotional baggage*. :)

*my emotional baggage - the sadness of many TV shows ending and job applications.

This song is dedicated to my job applications...because they're always in my head:


'Always in my head' by Coldplay

Monday, May 4, 2015

Racism

Having lived in Zambia for most of my life, it is sad to see that the people who made Zambia home for me are being treated the way this video portrays it:


If there's one thing that living in Zambia has taught me, it is to be kind to one another; to have empathy; to not discriminate; Zambians have taught me that skin colour is nothing but a colour. It is who you are that determines whether one likes you or not.

I have never faced any form of racism in Zambia, or any African country. On the contrary, I was always accepted for who I am. My friends never made me feel left out, never spoke behind my back, never made me feel left out...so why are we, in India, doing the complete opposite?

I understand that not everyone has the attitude that the video portrays. In fact, I am sure that you, who are reading this, are equally disgusted by the attitudes that are discussed in the video.

I just felt like expressing my opinion. I am heartbroken to see my second family being treated like this in my country of origin. This is just sad...

Source: http://www.mensxp.com/special-features/today/25925-african-nationals-share-how-they-are-treated-in-india-and-its-shameful.html

Friday, February 6, 2015

Nutella Rolls

Combine the art of baking with Nutella and try these Nutella Rolls to fulfill the sweet tooth. You will need:

- Nutella


- Pastry (ready made from any store)



1. Roll out the pastry:


2. Spread the Nutella:


3. Roll the pastry and cut it out into smaller rolls:



4. Bake for about 15 to 20 minutes until golden brown:


5. Once baked, sprinkle some icing sugar on top and serve:



A friend suggested more toppings such as melted Lindtt chocolates or rum. The choice is yours. This was just a spur of the moment fun thing I decided to do. :)

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Mardaani: Thoughts

The topic of women in India is a life long discussion. There's always some issue or the other - abuse, rape, girl trafficking...and so on.

This movie, Mardaani, is one what picks up the issue of girl trafficking and brings no new perspective, but shows the audience the brutal reality of what happens in India. I can probably add that it's not only in India, but should probably be happening in other parts of the world too.

The movie is no different from what many people say - women empowerment, free women, justice has to happen, and so on.

But one thing I really liked about the movie was when the protagonist questions, what's the point of being emotional after the incident has occurred? We need to be emotional before any incident happens in order to avoid it. If the war is personal, only then will you fight it. So why not make it all personal?

And that's the tagline of the movie - "Every war is personal".

I highly recommend watching this movie in order to understand how our country works when it comes to women, specifically girl trafficking. Of course, it offers no solution and for the handful that understand it, it's no use. We already feel strongly about the issue.

Watch the trailer here: